A Leap of Faith

Sentenced to doom because of a broken leg? Really?

One of the best things about blogging is the virtual community you join. Its members include not only fellow pet bloggers, but also readers who want to communicate because you’ve struck a chord with them. Some of their stories and concerns are sad, including the one I recently posted about pet loss. But some, including this one by Carla T., are sweet and inspirational.

I often refer to my decision to adopt Frankie, after years of dithering, as taking a leap of faith. It’s the same phrase Carla used when she described her decision to adopt Peanut. The following is distilled from a series of emails between us, including some in which I solicited pictures — aren’t you glad I did? — from Carla.

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Around the same time as you adopted your first dog, Frankie, I rescued my own first dog, ever. All of a sudden, the stars aligned, and this dog needed me to save him.

I’ve learned over our four years together that it goes both ways.

When I first approached the steel row of cages at the veterinary hospital where I worked back then, I saw a tiny creature, mostly hair, with enormous dark eyes. He stood on his three good limbs against the veterinarian’s kennel-jail, yelping and whining.  His right front arm was bent unnaturally and hung limp, broken clean through. His third set of owners had only had him in their care for one day, so they didn’t feel an obligation to pay for his medical care and returned him to the shelter.

Euthanasia was planned; this baby would die on his first birthday.

Snug as a bug in a Carla hug

When I opened the door of his cage, he inched toward me on his three good legs, still yapping but calming slightly. I gently lifted him into my arms and we fit. This is all it took for us to own each other.

In my care, a year later, a large dog got away from his tether and attacked my little guy (Peanut is all of eight pounds), almost to his demise. Thank god for emergency veterinary care.

Today, Peanut’s an awesome companion! He is loving and cuddly, but definitely has a mind of his own. Once he gained back his confidence after his myriad injuries, he really tested his limits (the canine version of teenager?).  I also think he’s too smart for my own good!

Peanut requires more dental care than any dog I’ve heard of previously (apparently it’s a small dog issue), and he is allergic to at least one of his annual vaccinations so that his vet has me do titers every year to determine if we must vaccinate or if Peanut has enough protection in him without re-vaxing.  If your vet ever says “titer,” run the other way, it’s WAY expensive! Grooming–let’s not go there, except to ask,  “Do all Yorkies smell bad when their hair gets long or is it just mine?”

That pooch must be part animal, part gold-dust by now!

Logically, the lengths to which I will go to for my little guy are ridiculous, but when I adopted him, I made him a promise that he would be worry-free for the rest of his life since he had such a tough start, and I’m trying to stay true to that word.

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The Kindness of Strangers

It’s easy to become cynical about human nature. Just open the newspaper to any random page and you’ll likely find a story of cruelty and stupidity.

And even the well-intentioned can be overwhelmed by the difficulty of improving the world. Most of the readers of this blog, say, would love to help dogs, but may not have a clear idea of how to do that. I usually count myself among them.

So I’m passing along a two-fer: An opportunity to redeem your faith in human nature and to help a dog.

Jim McBean of DoggyBytes.ca isn’t exactly a stranger — he’s been a guest blogger on this site — but I don’t know his cousin Theresa. Or her family. I do know, through Jim’s blog today, that their dog, Ginger (aka Shugie), needs life-saving surgery. So go over to his site and read the story. Then make a donation, even just a little one. I did, and it’s made me feel better about myself and about the world.

Try it. You’ll see.

Update: By coincidence, I just came across an article in The Week about the nature of compassion, how it’s easier to wrap your head around the plight of a single sufferer — in the article’s example, a small dog lost at sea — than a group in distress. It’s a fascinating excerpt from a book called The Hidden Brain by Shankar Vedantam. Check it out here.

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Frankie: The first five years

Yesterday was the fifth anniversary of adopting Frankie, my first dog, ever.  In honor of that occasion, I was going to write a paean to the joys of life with a dog. Not coincidentally, however, the day Frankie was brought over to my house –  in rescuer parlance, his “forever home,” a phrase I detest not only for its Hallmark soppiness, but also its inherent falsity; nothing, not even diamonds, is forever  — was also my birthday. Much as I love writing, it’s also work, something I was determined not to do on my birthday this year.

I also thought of spending the day with Frankie but he’s really not very sentimental  and wouldn’t have appreciated the gesture (except in the general sense of liking to have me around to cater to him).  He would, on the other hand, have been very annoyed to discover that I put on my other hat, food writer, and drove up to Scottsdale for an amazing lunch at Michael Mina’s Bourbon Steak (hint: Kobe beef and sirloin were involved) in which he didn’t partake. And hell no, there were no leftovers.

So the task of doing a retrospective fell to me today.

I then contemplated writing about what each year of our lives together would signify — you know, like kibble for the first year being the equivalent of a human paper anniversary — but soon started wondering whether I needed to factor in the seven dog years equals one human year formula, which has been modified anyway. This began to involve higher math.

More to the point, the idea of our anniversary described in human romantic terms began to seem a bit creepy. I also feel that way about the term “pet parent,” incidentally, with its implications of interspecies interbreeding. If I am Frankie’s “mom” — a term I never used to refer to my actual mother — who is his “dad”? What would I have had to do with him and why don’t I recall the occasion? And why doesn’t Frankie resemble me in the slightest?

So then it occurred to me that I addressed this question in — shameless self promotion alert — my new book, AM I BORING MY DOG.

2. Will getting a dog change my life dramatically?

Yes, and irrevocably– but in a good way. Unless you have a tiny, flinty heart, in which case you shouldn’t inflict your mean self on a dog or any other living creature.

It struck me that I used to worry that maybe I did have a tiny, flinty heart, that I was incapable of the sacrifice involved in caring for another creature. After all, I’d never wanted a human child (yes, I’m an unnatural woman; get over it).

I was wrong.

Not only did the depth of my feeling for this funny alien creature throw me for a loop; I was also surprised by my ability to cope with the day-to-day details of his care. To use an extreme example, when I discovered Frankie had diabetes first I threw myself on the floor and wept. And then I got on with the task of dealing with it.  Am I crazy about giving him shots and fussing over his diet? No way. But I sure am pleased to discover that caretaking is not beyond my capabilities.

Hmmm. Even if the term gives me the heebie jeebies, maybe I was cut out to be a dog mom after all.

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Frankie Doodle Jarolim, the early years

It’s funny. I still think of myself as a novice dog owner. My new book, Am I Boring My Dog, is written from the point of view of someone who’s recently been there, worried about that. But posting the details of my latest contest made the fact that five years have passed since I adopted Frankie (in October 2004) sink in.

I suppose my continued sense of freshness and awe — not to mention insecurity — is a result of coming to dog ownership later in life, a time when we don’t always take new experiences for granted. Or in stride.

Also, I’ve often said adopting Frankie after years of hesitation about getting a dog was a leap of faith. I imagine, then, that my experience is akin to being born again, with all the newfound zeal that involves. In this case, it even includes talking in tongues: I’ve been known to bark and whine at Frankie, in misguided attempts at communication (I must have a lousy canine accent because he never responds in the way I’d like).

And the more I learn, the more I see there is to learn.

But I digress. To mark the fifth anniversary of adopting Frankie, I’m going to look back at some of the highlights — and lowlights — of our years together. I’ve given up predicting exactly where this will go, or just how long I’ll pursue this thread.

To start at the beginning with a teaser: This is the picture — sent by my friend Rebecca, at the time with Arizona Schnauzer Rescue – that changed my life.

Resistance is futile

Resistance is futile

Frankie is about 5 years old here. I’d always figured I’d get a new model dog, but that notion flew out the window too when I saw that little face.

By the way, for those who are wondering how Frankie came by his first two names, see What’s In a (Dog’s) Name?

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Frankie speaks!

My friend Karyn, greyhound rescuer, foodie, and generally fun person, asked me if she could interview Frankie because he is the inspiration for my new book, Am I Boring My Dog (and because I suspect she often prefers speaking to dogs over speaking to humans). I usually try to shield him from publicity — see my September 3 post — but Karyn’s Greyhound Injury Fund site is the perfect place for any pup to find his voice. Here are  her two particular pals, the late, great Painter (who is in my book) and diva dog Lily.

Painter, celebrating his 12th birthday

Painter, celebrating his 12th birthday

Carmen Mirandog, photo by Diana Hansen

Carmen Mirandog, photo by Diana Hansen

And here’s an excerpt from Frankie’s interview:

KZ: Please tell me a little bit about your life before you came to Edie Jarolim’s house.

Frankie: I don’t like to talk about that. It’s hard to imagine how the people I was with could have abandoned me after I spent five years with them. I’m adorable — let’s face it — and housebroken. Not to mention extremely bright. What could I possibly have done so wrong as to make my people leave me to fend for myself on the streets of Tucson?

For the rest, go to Inspirations: Am I Boring My Dog? Book

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