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Mon, 23 Aug 2010 17:38:19 +0000

[...] Jarolim over at Will My Dog Hate Me. It’s a good match since not long ago Edie blogged about Sex & The Single Dog Blogger (and that post’s [...]

By: Lili

Lili — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 23:00:15 +0000

Perhaps you are right, Edie. I wonder if a non dog person can become a dog person. (Hmmm)
I hope your relationship goes well… would love updates!

By: Edie Jarolim

Edie Jarolim — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 19:42:39 +0000

You know, I think being with someone who is not a dog person is better than being with a so-called dog person who doesn’t agree with your dog treatment philosophy.

As for reading my book… well, it would be nice, but if I want any sort of social life I can’t expect it!

By: Lili

Lili — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 19:16:04 +0000

Hi Edie,

I thought I had a dilemma but this sounds complicated!

I am dating a guy who is not even a dog person and all my friends say “DEAL BREAKER” (because I am obsessed with my dog). Thankfully so far, we have had no “relationship issues” related to my dog, and everything is going fine.

I would feel strange about dating someone who won’t read my book… (or show interest in the stuff that interests ME)

Perhaps this guy needs some “training”:)

By: Mary E Haight

Mary E Haight — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 18:07:58 +0000

I found your thanks to respondents endearing. It’s not easy to put the more personal stuff out there. What you can be sure of is that this group is never short on opinions and we offer them freely whenever asked – and, hey, even when we’re not;-D

By: Edie Jarolim

Edie Jarolim — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:08:27 +0000

Thanks, Mary. Yes, if a little knowledge is dangerous, a lot of knowledge can isolate you from a great many people! But that’s not a bad thing if those people are not compatible with core views that are based on hard science — not to mention compassion.

And yes, it’s the unwillingness to listen to another point of view that makes me think the relationship is doomed before it really starts.

By: Edie Jarolim

Edie Jarolim — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:00:14 +0000

First off, thank you all (and welcome Carla)! I was hesitant to post this because, though it’s dog related, it’s a bit more personal — or personal in a different way — than my posts that focus primarily on my relationship with Frankie. But now I’m very glad I did. How wonderful to have an online support group that provides all these different perspectives and reality checks.

By: Edie Jarolim

Edie Jarolim — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 12:11:20 +0000

As it happens, Jana, I just did a story on the benefits of spay and neuter — the term castration really makes guys cringe! — and the benefits of neutering are not as dramatic for males as spaying for females. Testicular cancer is very rare, for example, while breast cancer is quite common in females and far more deadly. But you’re right, neutering does head off some very uncomfortable, if not life-threatening, prostatic conditions for males later on.

And causing the birth of other dogs who might end up euthanized in a shelter — that’s bad enough!

P.S. I’m trying hard not to be sexist about this (see neutral scientific comments above) but I had to laugh at your “what’s a guy gonna think with” without his balls comment!

By: Edie Jarolim

Edie Jarolim — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 11:55:00 +0000

Nope, you’re not the only guy answering, Rod. Kenzo is a guy (well a guy dog, who has his guy owner type for him). And he/they agree with you! Thanks for weighing in!

By: Mary Haight

Mary Haight — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 07:18:46 +0000

I think it can be hard to know so much that others don’t about a topic as important as the care of a sentient being – it can make you very unforgiving to the 90% of the population who remain relatively clueless.

I’m with Mary-Alice on the punching and take a hard line on it. I know people can be nervous on a date and that may have taken his response to a place it should not have gone out of embarrassment. Only further observance will tell you what kind of person he is. But the idea of punching a dog only enough “to get his attention” made me cringe.

That coupled with the “It’s not natural” to restrain the dog in his van, and the “it’s too late now” on the neutering makes me think he’s too stubborn for his own good, possibly unwilling to listen to anything that challenges his understanding of how things are. Nothing is worse than having what you say be dismissed with “the eyeroll”. Seems very petulant for early days in dating.

It’s never easy, is it? Attraction is one thing, relationship is another and the first doesn’t necessarily lead to the next. Enjoy yourself, have fun, keep your eyes open. If Frankie doesn’t hate him, that’s interesting.