Comments on: Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I Know. http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know A guilt-free zone for good dog owners Fri, 10 Feb 2012 09:25:10 +0000 hourly 1 By: Shawna http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-11297 Shawna Wed, 27 Jul 2011 15:40:03 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-11297 Dawn - I am so sorry and sad for you! Sheba was so beautiful!! I am so nervous about having to do this in the future for any one of my dogs. I have 3 and 2 of them are getting up there in age, my mini dachshund Sadie is 11 and she has back trouble and sadly, I think she is beginning to show signs of Canine Cognitive Disorder. She is so anxious and worked up as of late. She hates to go outside all of a sudden and will stand there and whine and scratch like she is scared to death! She is panting a lot more at night and is begging for attention and won't simply go lie down and relax anymore. I hope I will have the courage to do as you did for Sheba, when Sadie's time comes. I truly hope they all go in their sleep so I don't have to go through what you did. I don't think I'm strong enough to do it. It makes me tear up every time I think about it. I've had all of my girls since they were 8 weeks old, they are like my kids, & my best friends. Dawn, I hope you find some sort of peace and comfort. Sheba wouldn't want you to be sad....and she does know you love her!! Shawna M :o) Dawn – I am so sorry and sad for you! Sheba was so beautiful!! I am so nervous about having to do this in the future for any one of my dogs. I have 3 and 2 of them are getting up there in age, my mini dachshund Sadie is 11 and she has back trouble and sadly, I think she is beginning to show signs of Canine Cognitive Disorder. She is so anxious and worked up as of late. She hates to go outside all of a sudden and will stand there and whine and scratch like she is scared to death! She is panting a lot more at night and is begging for attention and won’t simply go lie down and relax anymore. I hope I will have the courage to do as you did for Sheba, when Sadie’s time comes. I truly hope they all go in their sleep so I don’t have to go through what you did. I don’t think I’m strong enough to do it. It makes me tear up every time I think about it. I’ve had all of my girls since they were 8 weeks old, they are like my kids, & my best friends. Dawn, I hope you find some sort of peace and comfort. Sheba wouldn’t want you to be sad….and she does know you love her!!

Shawna M :o )

]]> By: Pet Travel Thursday: My 7 Links http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-11233 Pet Travel Thursday: My 7 Links Thu, 21 Jul 2011 18:41:36 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-11233 [...] Get out your hankies. This is my response to a reader who wrote me about her very difficult decision to put her dog down: Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I Know. [...] [...] Get out your hankies. This is my response to a reader who wrote me about her very difficult decision to put her dog down: Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I Know. [...]

]]> By: Edie Jarolim http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-10419 Edie Jarolim Mon, 09 May 2011 03:35:44 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-10419 I'm so sorry for your loss and for the difficulty of your decision. Knowing you did the right thing doesn't take away the pain. I’m so sorry for your loss and for the difficulty of your decision. Knowing you did the right thing doesn’t take away the pain.

]]> By: Dogs Best Friend http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-10418 Dogs Best Friend Mon, 09 May 2011 02:38:30 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-10418 I am so glad that someone else wrote about the guilt they felt and being tortured at betraying their beloved dog when they were putting them down. I had to make this terrible decision with my perfect girl just a few weeks ago. and as I was discussing it with the vet- struggling with the decision, my dog was staring at me with an intensity that I have rarely seen before- she knew what we were talking about. She knew something huge was up. She could see my utter dispair. She knew I was telling her goodbye. And she was mad at me. She turned her face away from me in a "Harumph!"....I DO believe she felt I betrayed her. I think it was because she didn't want to go. She wanted to stay with me. It was as simple as that. It was a terrible decision. One that I second guess alot, but I know it was a good time for her to go- she wasn't in pain. But that look, it kills me. I understand what Dawn was saying. Dogs are smart- smarter than we often give them credit for, and my dog certainly was. We read each other's mind. I know she was mad. But I have to believe it's that she didn't want to go. But sometimes we make decisions that they have to live with and that was the one I made for her, out of pure love. I am the one who suffers without her. I am so glad that someone else wrote about the guilt they felt and being tortured at betraying their beloved dog when they were putting them down.

I had to make this terrible decision with my perfect girl just a few weeks ago. and as I was discussing it with the vet- struggling with the decision, my dog was staring at me with an intensity that I have rarely seen before- she knew what we were talking about. She knew something huge was up. She could see my utter dispair. She knew I was telling her goodbye. And she was mad at me. She turned her face away from me in a “Harumph!”….I DO believe she felt I betrayed her.

I think it was because she didn’t want to go. She wanted to stay with me. It was as simple as that. It was a terrible decision. One that I second guess alot, but I know it was a good time for her to go- she wasn’t in pain. But that look, it kills me. I understand what Dawn was saying. Dogs are smart- smarter than we often give them credit for, and my dog certainly was. We read each other’s mind. I know she was mad. But I have to believe it’s that she didn’t want to go. But sometimes we make decisions that they have to live with and that was the one I made for her, out of pure love. I am the one who suffers without her.

]]> By: Juliette http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-8412 Juliette Fri, 14 Jan 2011 10:53:44 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-8412 Hi Edie Very sad letter and I can understand Dawn's reaction but as you say, she did the right thing by her dog, for sure. I hope I have that courage, if it comes to that. Hi Edie

Very sad letter and I can understand Dawn’s reaction but as you say, she did the right thing by her dog, for sure. I hope I have that courage, if it comes to that.

]]> By: Top 10 2010 Favorite Dog Blog Posts « No Dog About It Blog http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-8148 Top 10 2010 Favorite Dog Blog Posts « No Dog About It Blog Mon, 03 Jan 2011 03:45:36 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-8148 [...] Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I know.: This post comes from Edie Jarolim at Will My Dog Hate Me. It struck a chord with me not only [...] [...] Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I know.: This post comes from Edie Jarolim at Will My Dog Hate Me. It struck a chord with me not only [...]

]]> By: Donna http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-6869 Donna Tue, 23 Nov 2010 13:08:10 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-6869 I was never as close to any of our dogs as I was to our first GSD "Irish" She was my constant companion. From the day she turned Ten I started dreading what the next few years were going to bring, I just couldn't imagine being without her. She became sick right after Christmas five years ago, On Christmas she was fine and 2 weeks later she was gone. Those last few days she never came by any of us, she basically stayed to herself as if hinting of the final separation coming. As much as we hated this we knew this was her signal to us to let her go. She went calmly to the vet and I truly believe she was at peace as she passed on. On the other hand I was a mess and so were the Vet's assistants. I was crying and asking her to forgive me for doing this to her. I felt like I betrayed her. Deep down I really believe they know when it their time to leave, we just have to be courageous enough to read the signs and put their wishes ahead of ours. She did her job faithfully for years, now it was my time to do mine. I was never as close to any of our dogs as I was to our first GSD “Irish” She was my constant companion. From the day she turned Ten I started dreading what the next few years were going to bring, I just couldn’t imagine being without her. She became sick right after Christmas five years ago, On Christmas she was fine and 2 weeks later she was gone. Those last few days she never came by any of us, she basically stayed to herself as if hinting of the final separation coming. As much as we hated this we knew this was her signal to us to let her go. She went calmly to the vet and I truly believe she was at peace as she passed on. On the other hand I was a mess and so were the Vet’s assistants. I was crying and asking her to forgive me for doing this to her. I felt like I betrayed her. Deep down I really believe they know when it their time to leave, we just have to be courageous enough to read the signs and put their wishes ahead of ours. She did her job faithfully for years, now it was my time to do mine.
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]]> By: Pet Loss & Grief: Some Coping Tips http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-6862 Pet Loss & Grief: Some Coping Tips Tue, 23 Nov 2010 08:04:04 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-6862 [...] who questioned whether her dog blamed her at the end for her decision to euthanize; here’s my answer (multiple tissue [...] [...] who questioned whether her dog blamed her at the end for her decision to euthanize; here’s my answer (multiple tissue [...]

]]> By: Top 10 Favorite Blog Posts « No Dog About It Blog http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-4573 Top 10 Favorite Blog Posts « No Dog About It Blog Mon, 06 Sep 2010 05:56:02 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-4573 [...] Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I know.: This post comes from Edie Jarolim at Will My Dog Hate Me. It struck a chord with me not only [...] [...] Your Dog Won’t Hate You. This I know.: This post comes from Edie Jarolim at Will My Dog Hate Me. It struck a chord with me not only [...]

]]> By: A Leap of Faith http://willmydoghateme.com/dog-mourning/your-dog-wont-hate-you-this-i-know/comment-page-1#comment-4248 A Leap of Faith Wed, 11 Aug 2010 12:43:58 +0000 http://willmydoghateme.com/?p=6036#comment-4248 [...] with them. Some of their stories and concerns are sad, including the one I recently posted about pet loss. But some, including this one by Carla T., are sweet and [...] [...] with them. Some of their stories and concerns are sad, including the one I recently posted about pet loss. But some, including this one by Carla T., are sweet and [...]

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