When a piece that is assigned to a writer doesn’t make into print for some reason, the expression is that it’s been “killed.”
That didn’t happen to AM I BORING MY DOG, which went to press right on schedule less than two years ago. Maybe it sounds overly dramatic, but I nevertheless took the news — surprising, inadvertent — that my book is no longer in print as a kind of death.
I’ll explain what happened as I take you through the stages of grief that I’ve been experiencing — sometimes in rapid succession — since I learned about this occurrence last week. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, who first identified the grief stages, named only five — and guilt is not among them.
I therefore adapted the concept to my needs.
Stage 1: Shock and Denial
It all started when I discovered a lovely blog called Doggerel: A Year of Learning About Dogs. The blogger, Abby, writes:
One year from now, once we move out of our apartment, I will finally be able to get a dog….During this year of waiting for a puppy to call my own, I will be a student of the canine world. I’m reading books and blogs about dogs.
I thought that, since AIBMD is all about getting a first dog, it would be a great fit for this project. I contacted Abby, asked her if she wanted a review copy and, getting an enthusiastic affirmative response, asked the publicist for Alpha/Penguin to send one along.
I got back a note: “Unfortunately the book is out of print and they don’t have any available.”
That’s the shock part.
The denial part is literal. A week before this event occurred, my pal Debbie Jacobs of FearfulDogs.com posted on Facebook: “Nice seeing your book featured in the Dogwise newsletter!” So I went over to Dogwise, and saw a listing that said:
Am I Boring My Dog…and 99 Other Things Every Dog Wishes You Knew by Edie Jarolim. A mixture of useful and silly facts about dogs. Now out of print, limited to stock on hand.
I irately commented to Debbie that the listing was wrong on both counts. The book is not a mixture of useful and silly facts about dogs, I grumbled. And it’s not out of print.
Well, I got one out of two right.












Give the Gift of Dog Savvy: Am I Boring My Dog?
I immediately got advice about installing a PayPal button and, although I definitely have tech issues — I almost installed a “Like Me on Facebook” widget for GoPetFriendly.com on this site — that wasn’t my hang-up. My big problem, I explained, was with self promotion.
Poor uncommercial me.
Everyone listened politely for a few minutes. Then one of my friends reminded me that, although I am culturally Jewish and consider myself a holiday-free zone, Christmas was getting very close and people want to buy presents, so I needed to snap out of it. She didn’t slap me, a la Cher and Nicholas Cage in Moonstruck, but that was the general idea.
So this is me, snapping out of it.
I am going to leave it to others to praise the book — that’s what The Book section is for — but I will say I’m proud of having written it and, more than two years of blogging and research later, still stand behind all the dog advice.
If you buy it, I will inscribe it to anyone, human or canine, you would like me to inscribe it to. Frankie will sign it too, in his fashion.
Use the (correctly installed) PayPal/credit card Buy Now button to the right, then email me — at writestf at mac dot com — with the inscription you’d like me to write and the address you’d like me to send it to.
I’ve included first-class U.S. postage in the price. If you’d like me to send it elsewhere, I’ll go to the post office and let you know what that will run you. And if you can get it in time for the holidays.
And even if you don’t want to buy the book, watch the video trailers. Talk about holiday cheer!
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