Dog Talking with Tracie Hotchner (updated)

By Edie Jarolim | Published: August 18, 2010

This past Saturday, I was on “Dog Talk,” a NPR affiliate show hosted by Tracie Hotchner. The author of The Dog Bible, an invaluable resource when I was writing Am I Boring My Dog. Tracie was so enthusiastic about my book that I couldn’t wait to post the interview. I figured it would be simple to edit out the 45 minutes during which I wasn’t on air.

Sometimes I forget just how technically inept I am.

Long story short: I asked Anthony Holloway, CEO of k9Cuisine.com and a previous guest on Tracie’s show, how he edited the clip he posted. Anthony, one of the nicest people in the universe, offered to do it for me, and I gratefully accepted. He then edited it further, to eliminate an intrusive cat, and posted it on his site so I could have a url to link to.

If there is a heaven for those who take pity on the technoramuses, Anthony will get instant entry, if I have anything to say about it. In the meantime, on earth, you have my endless gratitude Anthony.

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WMDHM: The Shameless Book Promotion Phase

By Edie Jarolim | Published: April 7, 2010

The reason I initially created a dog blog was to establish my expertise as the author of a book about dogs.  It soon became clear that, although fun, being a dog fashion correspondent might not be the best route to that goal. So I began writing about more substantive topics and, as the publication date approached, went into less subtle book promotion mode.

So why would I want to read about your book promotion now, even as part of your blog’s first birthday celebration, you may be asking yourself.

Because it involved two of the funniest things on my blog, I would answer.

First, the contest to come up with book titles that would bore a dog, based on those that appear on the cover of AM I BORING MY DOG (click on the image, below, to read the titles). Some random examples of the responses I got included:

A Good Bone is Hard to Find by Flannery O’Cavalier

A Tail of Two Shih Tzus by Charles What-the-Dickens

Hairy Plotter and the Sorcerer’s Bone by J.K. Howling

Lord of the Fleas by William Golden

Slouching Towards Veterinarian by Joan Piddle-on

To read the rest, go here.

Then there are the video book promos. Yes, you can always see the final one on this blog, but the five leading up to it are really funny too (and very short).

And if you’re so inspired, do vote in my poll:

Which Frankie do you like best?

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I heart Dog Star Daily

By Edie Jarolim | Published: February 14, 2010

And Dog Star Daily hearts me  — or at least my book — back.

Co-created by the renowned Dr. Ian Dunbar and Kelly Gorman Dunbar, the site is home to some of the world’s top dog training and behavior experts, including Dr. Nicholas Dodman, Patricia McConnell, and Suzanne Clothier, as well as such up-and-comers (and, okay, Twitter pals) Eric Goebelbecker (@DogSpelledFwd; www.dogspelledforward.com), Nicole S. Silvers (@SilverSkyk9; http://silverskyk9.com) and Erica Young (@WorkThatDog).

So imagine my delight to find the following in the February 2010 Monthly Woof newsletter:

Edie Jarolim’s new book, “Am I Boring My Dog” addresses all sorts of questions about choosing and living with a dog. But this is no ordinary dry, informational dog book. The humorous and conversational tone makes this the most palatable dog book in ages. It’s an excellent book. I’ve never seen anything quite like it. “Am I Boring My Dog” is extremely thorough and covers an interesting and unique array of questions that pop up when one gets a dog for the first time. Questions I’ve never seen addressed anywhere else. This book is a must-have resource for anyone contemplating getting a dog, all first-time dog owners, dog professions, and every dog-lover in general; really it’s a book for anyone who wants to do the very best for their dog.

Read the rest of the review and newsletter here.

And yes, I saved this post for Valentine’s Day. What better occasion for a love fest?

Speaking of which, since you’re already here, why not take my Valentine’s Day poll?

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And the contest winner is…

By Edie Jarolim | Published: December 14, 2009

This was tough. Really tough. I was wowed by the thoroughness of many of the comments — not to mention the graciousness of all of them. Not a single person said anything mean about me or Frankie that I had to remove. In fact, you were all wonderfully encouraging about my writing (Frankie’s adorableness was a given).

I knew the picture issue would come up.  So this is an explanation, not an excuse. I’ve mentioned the camera curse before  (see Our Doggies, Ourselves). Sure enough, in keeping with the curse tradition, my camera was stolen (along with my laptop and a bunch of other things. But still…).  I did buy a new one, finally, and you all inspired me to take it out on the trail yesterday to practice. I didn’t get a good picture of Frankie, who rarely moves far enough away from me when we’re outside to get a full body view, but I was able to capture a handsome fox terrier who belongs to Jim, one of the trail regulars.

Frankie's acquaintance, Chuy

Frankie's acquaintance, Chuy

So I promise, more pictures.

I once had a Twitter button but it fell off and I don’t remember how to sew it back on.

Okay, I’m procrastinating. Like I said, it was really tough to choose a winner, and I thank you all for your contributions. It came down to three finalists, Rebecca, Pat Steer, and GoPetFriendly, listed here in the order in which they submitted their comments. They were all immensely useful in their specificity about technical issues. But I finally chose Pat — yes, you can call me Edie, and I’ll call you Pat — because:

  • I liked her referral to another site that described the pain of the process of revamping a blog.
  • She was the first one to help me make the connection that putting a Twitter feed on my blog functioned as a substitute for blogging every day. I’d always thought it was redundant, and a bit of overkill — do my blog readers really have to know what I thought about the ending of Dexter? — but suddenly that little “click” went off: Ah, more content on my blog without having to blog. That’s a good thing. It does mean I’ll have to be more conscious about my tweeting, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, either.
  • She has just finished three — count ‘em, three! — blog revamps and really needs a bit of humor in her life, which I hope Am I Boring My Dog will provide (Oh Favorite Niece  — a.k.a. Only Niece Who Reads My Blog –  is that still too much of a plug?)

Incidentally, I just checked out Pat’s revamped Dog Trainer’s Log site, which I linked to with her name, above. It looks amazing, so she is also an inspiration. Hmm… How about I let you use Pimp My Blog for a ProBlogger discussion, Pat, and I use the same WordPress theme as you used?

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Weekend Win-a-Book Contest: Blog 911

By Edie Jarolim | Published: December 12, 2009

Life lessons are sometimes ambiguous. Yes, my failed foray into bells-and-whistles SEO/SEM technology taught me that there’s no substitute for solid writing and communication with readers. A blog is only as good as its content and its bond with a like-minded audience.

But it also made me aware that it’s tough to reach that like-minded audience without user-friendly blog technology. I definitely need to update Will My Dog Hate Me.

Thus this new contest, which will run for the weekend: The morning of December 12 through the evening of December 13. Go to the comments section and tell me what works for you on this blog — literally and figuratively — and what doesn’t. How I can improve the format — social media buttons? page length and post length? feeds? — and the content. Tell me what you’d like to see more of, what could go (except for Frankie). Share features from your favorite blogs, including your own, that I might consider adding to mine.

Amazon copyThe person that sends the most thoughtful/useful comment(s) — there’s no need to stop at one — who makes it clear that he or she has given this some real thought,  wins a copy of Am I Boring My Dog. Just in time for the holidays. I’ll inscribe it to the people — and dogs — of your choice, and send it directly to you or to its intended recipient.  If you’re in the U.S. or Canada, I’ll send it first class, not book rate. (Sorry my UK and Aussie pals; in your case it’s slow boat!)

Of course I reserve the right not to publish anything nasty. Mean comments about Frankie are immediate disqualifiers.

Is this a way to get people to read my blog? You bet — and an easy, low tech way at that. But consider the bonus, if you’re a blogger. It’s a good exercise in considering what you like on your own blog, what does or doesn’t work for you.

Incidentally, I was going to call this contest “Pimp My Blog,” but thought I might be pushing my luck, given my recent “What Would Frankie Do?” post. So there’s another topic to consider commenting on: Where do you  — that is me — draw the line between being interesting and opinionated and being offensive enough to put off people who might benefit from your opinions if they were presented differently?

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I’m the answer to Cesar Millan? Why, thanks!

By Edie Jarolim | Published: December 6, 2009

[originally posted November 27th, 2009]

It’s Black Friday, and in the spirit of unbridled commerce, I figured I’d shamelessly promote my new book, Am I Boring My Dog? Why buy a copy, you ask? Because you will be showing your advocacy for positive, dog friendly training and learning how to keep adopted dogs from being returned to the pound.

Hey, I didn’t make those claims. Tim Vanderpool, the reviewer at the Tucson Weekly says:

While Millan’s approach has landed him gobs of press, the take-home message remains troubling: Must all dog owners manhandle their peaceful pooches into submission?

My answer? Skip the trendy Millan, and pick up a copy of Am I Boring My Dog? And 99 Other Things Every Dog Wishes You Knew. Authored by pet specialist and longtime Tucsonan Edie Jarolim, this smart and funny book replaces hype with refreshing common sense. Don’t be deceived by its airy, entertaining tone; Jarolim is serious about dogs, and her book is, too. It’s a mark of her skill that you come away with more doggie knowledge than you’d bargained for, all expertly tucked among the chuckles.

And

This clever, concise book…should be mandatory reading for anyone planning to adopt a pooch and keep it off the adoption line.

To read the rest of the review, click here. And while you’re on the Weekly’s site, don’t miss the same writer’s excellent — if grim — cover story on Pima Animal Care Center.

It’s odd: As far as I know, the reviewer has never looked at my blog and in any case would have turned in the review before my Make Fun of Dog Dominance Theory Day post. And I never mention Cesar Millan by name in my book. Must be something in the air…

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So your kid wants a dog…

By Edie Jarolim | Published: December 5, 2009

[originally posted November 16, 2009]

Forget violence and lewd language. In many households, it’s films like Hotel for Dogs, Beverly Hills Chihuahua, and 101 Dalmatians (in any version) that require parental controls. All are dangerous viewing for families unwilling, or unable, to get their offspring a dog.

But even parents who are considering a furry pal for their kids should beware of films or ads depicting cute canines; the strong pet urges they awaken may be premature. Not all children are ready for the responsibility of taking care of a living creature, especially a high maintenance one like a dog.

Even two cute dalmatians can be dangerous

Even two cute dalmatians can be dangerous

How do you know if your child is ready for a dog?

  • If he or she is old enough to ask, that’s a start — “ask” being the operative word. Never get a dog for a kid who hasn’t requested one just because you think he is lonely or needs to learn responsibility. That would be the equivalent of using real babies rather than dolls or eggs in one of those teen anti-pregnancy programs that involves taking care of an infant for a week. Robotic dogs are now widely available, should such a lesson be your goal.
  • Take into account the circumstances that sparked the request. Wait at least three months after your child viewed the last dog movie.

In the meantime, try not to be swayed by the intense desire to stop the cajoling and whining that tend to accompany all pet requests. Inform your offspring that dogs are very sensitive to high-pitched sounds such as whining, and that you couldn’t possibly bring one into such an inhospitable environment.

  • Finally, ask yourself: Are you or anyone else in the family willing to take primary responsibility for the dog if your kid loses interest? If the answer is no, don’t get a dog. It would not only be horribly unfair to the neglected pup, but also to the child, who’ll come to associate dogs with nagging and yelling and, as a result, never want to have anything to do with the species later in life.

If you do decide your household is dog-ready:

  • Involve your child in the adoption/buying (from a reputable breeder, of course) process, thereby ensuring a match of temperaments and creating an emotional bond.
  • Avoid bringing a dog home during the holidays, a sure recipe for disaster. (See my earlier post, A dog as a holiday gift? Think again)

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t let your child associate getting a dog with the holidays, which is one way to ensure better memories of the season than most of us have. Either go together to get the dog in advance, stressing that this is a holiday gift, or give the child an IOU — perhaps tied to a stuffed animal — promising an excursion to get a pup in the new year. If your kid can’t deal with the concept of advance or deferred gratification — or does really creepy things to the stuffed animal– then she isn’t ready for a dog.

  • Avoid family trips to stores that sell puppies. It’s tough enough for a grownup to remember the greater good of shutting down puppy mills, which tend to be the source of pet store dogs, when faced with the pathos of a small, squirmy cutie in a cage. Don’t expect your child to be able to grasp this difficult concept — or forgive you for dragging him away from that wagging tail.

Adapted from Am I Boring My Dog: And 99 Things Every Dog Wishes You Knew.

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Werewolves, Whisperers, and Mensches

By Edie Jarolim | Published: December 5, 2009

[originally posted November 6, 2009]

Far be it from me to suggest I don’t love plain old good reviews of Am I Boring My Dog; I do. But sometimes a write up comes along that teaches me something new about what I wrote, putting it into a larger context that hadn’t occurred to me. That was the case with Diane Schmidt’s “Be a Mensch and a Good Dog Owner,” on the Albuquerque Judaism Examiner site; it first appeared in the Gallup Independent on October 31. She starts off by saying:

Secretly guilt-ridden that you could never achieve the successes of Cesar Millan, Dog Whisperer? Chagrined and embarrassed by your dog’s behaviors in public? Unsure if you are even worthy of canine affection? If you have been guiltily suffering in silence, look out Cesar, because there’s a new book for dog-owners from Alpha Books, publishers of the Complete Idiot’s Guides, that should spawn a whole new line of how-to books: how-to-not-feel-guilty books. It’s definitely for those of us raised on Dr. Spock. Yes, that’s us, a whole generation raised by guilty mothers who could never spank us and now we aren’t quite sure how to manage the “I’m your pack-leader” alpha dominance business with our furry friends, who by the way are not furry children; children actually are, in fact, hair-challenged dogs, as we learn in ‘Am I Boring My Dog?’ by Edie Jarolim.

Jarolim is originally from Brooklyn, where, according to her introduction, she says Lassie wasn’t exactly down at the corner deli begging for pastrami hand-outs. She has lived in Tucson now for over 15 years and she got a dog, Frankie. She wants you to know that a lot of folks who grew up in New York City and surrounds were not allowed to have dogs, and while she doesn’t mention it, we’ve also noticed some never really learned to drive, either. Nevertheless, New Yorkers get it in their heads to move out west; they eventually get houses with yards and cowboy boots and they get dogs, but some things can never change, such as feeling guilty about everything.

Naturally I’m thrilled to be considered an antidote to Cesar Millan — who, by the way, I never mention in my book; I just advocate positive or “dog-friendly” training methods. I was even more pleased to learn that, after reading my book, Schmidt decided to substitute a halter for the choke collar (you’ll have to read the rest of the review to learn about that).

Teddy harnessed text arabic

But what got me thinking was the allusion to the book as part of the zeitgeist of a generation raised on Dr. Spock (also Mr. Spock, but that’s another story). Why wouldn’t the progeny of non-spankers have problems with physical punishment? Choking dogs doesn’t come naturally to us — and that’s a good thing.

It got better, thanks to one of those serendipitous (woo woo?) events. I didn’t get a copy of the original print edition of the review until yesterday, when I discovered that it ran opposite the comic pages. This made me very happy, because everyone — yes, I include myself — looks at the comics. And then I started browsing that page, and stopped short. What are the odds that the following strip by Dana Summers should have appeared opposite the review?

bound and gagged

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Remembrance of Pets Past: Dia de los Muertos

By Edie Jarolim | Published: October 30, 2009

Halloween has never been my holiday.

It might have had something to do with my mother’s dislike of what she considered a religious — and not one of ours — observance, her reluctance to take me on the rounds of my Brooklyn apartment building (which wasn’t especially kid-friendly anyway).  It might have had to do with the fact that I was a chubette when I was growing up and didn’t look good in a tutu. Not unrelated: My mother always discouraged me from eating whatever candy I accumulated because, as I’ve mentioned, I was a chubette.

In recent and somewhat svelter years, I’ve still had no interest in coming up with a costume; I have enough trouble pretending to be a grown-up on the rare occasion when I’m required to look “professional.”  The only Halloween party I recall with fondness  — or recall at all for that matter — was the one, post-divorce, when I wore the floor-length, fancy dress I’d gotten married in. I strapped a pillow around my waist and went as a pregnant bride.

But if I’ve never been crazy about Halloween, when I moved to the Southwest I found a (semi-) related holiday that really speaks to me: Dia de Los Muertos, or the Day of the Dead. It involves Mexican folk art, sugary snacks, and the notion that our departed loved ones can return home for a day to enjoy their favorite foods with us. What’s not to like?

Of course, the breaking of bread with the dead is the way to bring them back into our lives for a time, the better to remember why we mourn them. And in my dog-obsessed circles, we recognize that mourning pets is as important — perhaps more important, because it’s generally less societally acceptable — as mourning  humans.

Day of the Dead Floorcloth/Altar by VerveInteriors

Day of the Dead Floorcloth/Altar by VerveInteriors on Etsy

You probably wouldn’t want to put food on the floorcloth pictured above, but I imagine a picnic cloth on which you might lay down a feast that your dog would have loved —   cheeseburgers, say, and buffalo wings — but was never allowed to eat in life because of the high fat content and the fear of splintering bones.

And those who live in the Tucson area should consider going over to the Global Arts Gallery in nearby Patagonia (no, not the one in South America) on Sunday, November 1 (noon to 5), where there will be an offrenda (altar) upon which to place photographs and other remembrances of pets past. There will also be a show/sale of the collages, paintings, and prints of Donna Reibslager. And food.

Cancion. Collage by Donna Reibslager

Cancion. Collage by Donna Reibslager

Even if you can’t go this Sunday, be sure to stop by another time for the wonderful folk art, jewelry, and clothing from all over the world.  I would say this even if the owner, Adrienne Halpert, weren’t my friend and wasn’t going to host a signing for Am I Boring My Dog in her gallery on November 27. My first love was for the store, and I only got to know Adrienne and her pups, Paco and Goomba because I went back so often.

Paco and Goomba, Global Art Gallery's pups

Paco and Goomba, Global Art Gallery's pups

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Frankie: The first five years

By Edie Jarolim | Published: October 24, 2009

Yesterday was the fifth anniversary of adopting Frankie, my first dog, ever.  In honor of that occasion, I was going to write a paean to the joys of life with a dog. Not coincidentally, however, the day Frankie was brought over to my house –  in rescuer parlance, his “forever home,” a phrase I detest not only for its Hallmark soppiness, but also its inherent falsity; nothing, not even diamonds, is forever  — was also my birthday. Much as I love writing, it’s also work, something I was determined not to do on my birthday this year.

I also thought of spending the day with Frankie but he’s really not very sentimental  and wouldn’t have appreciated the gesture (except in the general sense of liking to have me around to cater to him).  He would, on the other hand, have been very annoyed to discover that I put on my other hat, food writer, and drove up to Scottsdale for an amazing lunch at Michael Mina’s Bourbon Steak (hint: Kobe beef and sirloin were involved) in which he didn’t partake. And hell no, there were no leftovers.

So the task of doing a retrospective fell to me today.

I then contemplated writing about what each year of our lives together would signify — you know, like kibble for the first year being the equivalent of a human paper anniversary — but soon started wondering whether I needed to factor in the seven dog years equals one human year formula, which has been modified anyway. This began to involve higher math.

More to the point, the idea of our anniversary described in human romantic terms began to seem a bit creepy. I also feel that way about the term “pet parent,” incidentally, with its implications of interspecies interbreeding. If I am Frankie’s “mom” — a term I never used to refer to my actual mother — who is his “dad”? What would I have had to do with him and why don’t I recall the occasion? And why doesn’t Frankie resemble me in the slightest?

So then it occurred to me that I addressed this question in — shameless self promotion alert — my new book, AM I BORING MY DOG.

2. Will getting a dog change my life dramatically?

Yes, and irrevocably– but in a good way. Unless you have a tiny, flinty heart, in which case you shouldn’t inflict your mean self on a dog or any other living creature.

It struck me that I used to worry that maybe I did have a tiny, flinty heart, that I was incapable of the sacrifice involved in caring for another creature. After all, I’d never wanted a human child (yes, I’m an unnatural woman; get over it).

I was wrong.

Not only did the depth of my feeling for this funny alien creature throw me for a loop; I was also surprised by my ability to cope with the day-to-day details of his care. To use an extreme example, when I discovered Frankie had diabetes first I threw myself on the floor and wept. And then I got on with the task of dealing with it.  Am I crazy about giving him shots and fussing over his diet? No way. But I sure am pleased to discover that caretaking is not beyond my capabilities.

Hmmm. Even if the term gives me the heebie jeebies, maybe I was cut out to be a dog mom after all.

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