Dating in the internet age is tough. “Must love dogs” is no longer specific enough a requirement to ensure a meeting of minds (etc.). Consider this scenario:
You spot a guy on an online dating site and one of the things that draws you to him is a profile picture with a dog licking his face.
You meet, the guy is nice, and you are attracted to each other.
He meets your dog, and your dog doesn’t seem to hate him (which, for your dog, is a rave review).
You meet his dog, a sweet young pit bull mix that the guy rescued from the streets, and you discover the following:
- The dog isn’t neutered (“It’s a guy thing,” the guy says)
- The dog only goes out and roams “occasionally” and anyway “there are no female dogs in the neighborhood.” And because the dog is about a year old, “it’s too late” to neuter him now.
- The dog is a humper, and in order to keep him from humping you, the guy punches the dog. Not hard, he says, only “to get his attention.”
- The dog is never put into safety restraints when he is riding in the guy’s van because it wouldn’t be “natural.”
You try to explain the problem with all these things, in a pleasant way (except for the punching; you threaten to leave immediately if any more punching occurs). The guy’s eyes glaze over, and his face takes on a long-suffering look, one that suggests you are a typical nagging female. He doesn’t interrupt you — see “mutual attraction,” above — but he is clearly waiting until you are done speaking so more interesting things can occur.
You believe the guy really does love his dog, but doesn’t know what’s best for him and for a world overrun with unwanted pets and that he is unwilling to learn. He’s not even interested enough in your claim that you know a thing or two about dogs to read your blog — which is why you feel comfortable posing hypothetical scenarios — much less your book, which is not a good sign for other reasons.
Is this romance doomed?