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Dogs + Babies: New Formulas for Success

If you’re like me, you’ve often gotten these email pleas: “Friends of mine have to give up their dog because he’s growling at the new baby. Can you help them find him a new home?”

They usually go on to detail what a wonderful dog he is, and how heartbroken the family feels.

I always feel heartbroken too. What a way to welcome a new family member — by getting rid of another one. That’s got to create lots of guilt and self-recriminations during a period that’s already stressful. And the dog is labeled as “scary,” no matter what a great pet he had been, so the chances of finding him a new home go down significantly.

But now I know about Jen Shyrock, a certified dog behavior consultant with a degree in special education for elementary students. She created the Dogs and Storks Program to head off just those types of situations before they occur. She discusses this life-changing program as well as her new Dog and Baby Connection project with Eric Goebelbecker of Dog Spelled Forward in this week’s Animal Cafe.

The Genesis of Dogs and Storks

Shyrock is a mother of four  — ages 15, 13, 10 and 21 months — whose household  includes a pit bull, a German Shepherd and a Siberian husky, not to mention four cats. So she not only talks the talk but has walked the walk — one filled with stroller awkwardness and dog poop — when she discusses the difficulties involved in keeping dogs from having to be rehomed when a new baby arrives.

It was her work with German Shepherd rescue that made her realize something needed to be done. As Shyrock says in the interview, “I saw so many wonderful dogs being surrendered. I knew there had to be a way to keep them at home.”

Among the other great information in the FAQ section of the Dog and Storks website are five tips to prepare for the baby’s arrival, how to respond “when” the dog reacts to the baby, as she emphasizes, not “if”

1. Identify and decrease attention-seeking behaviors such as pawing, barking, or jumping.

2. Become familiar with the subtle signals and body language of dogs.

3. Begin a baby-friendly, flexible routine of feeding and activities – and include your dog! Be sure to take these opportunities to practice obedience skills.

4. Role-play with a doll & baby equipment to help gradually expose your dog to these new and exciting items.  Reward calm and desired behavior.

5. Identify and begin to use designated “dog zone/s” such as a gated or closed room, outside, a kennel or crate, etc.  If you have multiple dogs get them used to being apart from one another, too.

Dog and Baby Connection

Recently Shyrock began thinking about the fact that dogs are far more at risk for rehoming after the baby arrives than before. She says in the interview, “The hard part is when the little one gets moving, that’s when we run into the growling and biting.”

She came up with the idea of not only offering presentations to discuss these issues but also having licensed practitioners, many of whom already have their own dog training businesses, to provide on site analysis — the basis for the Dog and Baby Connection program. “It’s essential to get into the home to see the environment,” Shyrock says, in order to help people read their dogs’ subtle body language and assess individual situations. Some dogs, for example, may enjoy being able to see the family interacting with the baby in an adjacent room, while other may find it distressing.

Shyrock also points out that many people ignore a dog’s shifting life stages. Thus parents who have experienced the family dog being great with a first baby don’t realize that not only is every baby different but that the dog is different too. “An older dog may be less patient,” Shyrock explains.

Above all, Shyrock knows how easy it is for mothers to feel overwhelmed and to fall prey to feelings of inadequacy. Even with all her knowledge and experience — in addition to everything else, she grew up in a family that showed dogs —  Shyrock too has gone through the “rehoming phase,” the one where she has felt that she can’t possibly pay adequate attention to her dogs’ needs and they might be better cared for elsewhere.

Her suggestions for what to do? Well, listen to the podcast. Shyrock is extremely personable and articulate and, above all, dog-oriented. It’s refreshing to listen to someone so devoted to trying to keep families together — including the nonhuman members.

You’ll want to come back to the Animal Cafe chatroom on Wednesday, May 11, at 9PM EST to follow up with Shyrock, if only to thank her for creating these two great programs. Trust me. I don’t have any kids, but I’m grateful that she’s provided me with a positive way to respond to those depressing emails.

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14 Comments

  1. Posted May 10, 2011 at 10:45 am | Permalink

    Glad to see Jennifer Shyrock and Dogs and Storks getting some attention. This is a great program.

    I bought the Dogs and Storks DVD along with some kongs and treats for a shower gift for a friend recently. I hoped it would be a welcome antidote to all the friends and family members advising her how to make sure her baby was “dominant” over the dogs. 🙁

    • Edie Jarolim
      Posted May 10, 2011 at 12:30 pm | Permalink

      Ay yi yi — just what we need: Dominant babies! Good for you for providing a great alternative. Just curious: Where did you hear about the program? I hadn’t seen much written about it before.

  2. Posted May 10, 2011 at 10:53 am | Permalink

    It’s great there are starting to be more programs that recognise this kind of hole. I have a friend who immediately gave up her dog when her new babies arrived. At the time I remember being shocked but she was very nonchalant about it. She said something along the lines of “it’s just what happens.”
    I am glad to now have an excellent resource to forward on if this comes up in the future.

    • Edie Jarolim
      Posted May 10, 2011 at 12:32 pm | Permalink

      It always shocks me when a decision like that isn’t an agonizing one. But I guess the people I hang out with — in real life and on the internet — aren’t necessarily typical. Which is too bad IMHO.

  3. Clare
    Posted May 10, 2011 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    Pamela, what a GREAT idea for a shower gift. That will be mine from now on.

    I have a recent and tragic story about a dog spurned when the baby arrived, but I don’t think anyone here needs to hear it. All your readers know better.

    • Posted May 14, 2011 at 7:00 pm | Permalink

      Thank you all for the kind words and for sharing our info. We have over 80 presenters in the U.S. and Canada. Our goal is to provide positive, practical and affordable resources for new and expecting families with dogs. We have just launched our new program (follow up) and with it some webinars. I am always interested in supporting others in our goals to educate and keep kids and dogs safe and comfortable in their homes.
      Thanks again!

  4. Posted May 10, 2011 at 9:09 pm | Permalink

    Jen is awesome! I actually spoke with her (twice) back when I was first starting my business in hopes of creating a program like this at our shelter. She worked with our two trainers to create an awesome program.

    As someone who has seen many mothers in the “nesting” stage of pregnancy come in and adopt a dog I cannot thank you enough for writing this post Edie. I always wanted to pull these women aside and ask them to please turn around and walk out the door. Almost inevitably the dog they had adopted would be brought back once the baby was born. Drove me crazy!!! That’s why I am a huge Jen supporter.

    • Edie Jarolim
      Posted May 10, 2011 at 9:38 pm | Permalink

      How great that you had a chance to work with Jen! You’ve confirmed the impression I got of her from the interview. And that must have been so frustrating for you to see all those adoptions bound to fail; if only you could have slipped the women a copy of Jen’s DVD…

  5. Posted May 11, 2011 at 7:13 am | Permalink

    I don’t know if she mentions in her book…but I read a long time ago…if a family member can bring home a blanket or other clothing “smelling like baby” prior to baby coming home…it helps pup.

  6. Posted May 11, 2011 at 12:15 pm | Permalink

    I’m really glad to see these programs… I’ll definitely be sharing them with friends who are having kids! I hate when people view their dog as disposable when they have a baby!

  7. Posted May 12, 2011 at 8:55 pm | Permalink

    This has really been informative, thank you so much for sharing and about those program I got a couple of friends who will give birth about in a month or so and this will really be a great help since they love dogs too!

  8. Posted June 6, 2011 at 7:16 am | Permalink

    I just found this article, but what a great resource! We see many pets who are kicked out once a baby arrives, and it’s so depressing. It doesn’t have to be that way, and I’m glad to have this to share with people who think it does. Thanks!

  9. Posted September 20, 2011 at 8:48 pm | Permalink

    I love Jen Shyrock and her programs. I got two of the trainers I know at our local shelter to implement her program there. We saw so many dogs returned or surrendered because a baby was brought into the family. I shared Jen’s info with a friend when she was pregnant and I really think it helped them to keep their dogs.

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